Yippee! Now, after so many months – maybe years- you have both decide the time is right to have a baby. It’s time for sex and plenty of it, without the contraceptives and the nagging worry that they might not work. These are the best days of your married life.

As the months go by you hope and pray, but nothing happens. That’s ridiculous. All that trying and no results. You worry, you cry and you wonder, “What’s wrong with me?” and “What’s wrong with him?”

So you try harder and more often on more days, just in case your ovulation time estimation is off. But the joy of frequent sex wears thin for both of you. And when your period comes, it’s more tears, more worries, more wondering, “What more can we do?”

The answer is – back off. Don’t just try harder, try easier. Recognize that the stress you two feel building up every month is a real problem. In fact, studies have shown stress is a factor linked to about 30% of infertility issues. So taking steps to reduce your stress, not trying harder, could be the key to becoming pregnant.

Be Realistic

Know the facts about what is normal. Recognize becoming pregnant usually takes some time. Assuming you are in your 20′s, and follow the rules for “trying” to become pregnant and have no physical abnormalities, these infertility statistics apply to you:
– 50% of couples get pregnant after four or five months
– 70% get pregnant after nine months
– 85% get pregnant after a year

But pregnancy rates are highly dependent on age. Here are more data for older women:
– at age 30, 75% become pregnant within a year and 91% within four years
– at age 35, 66% become pregnant within a year and 84% within four years
– at age 40, 44% become pregnant within a year and 64% within four years

Reducing Stress

There are many ways to reduce infertity stress, anxiety and the pressure you feel to “try harder” during ovulation. Take care to avoid addind more stress by doing too much. Try the easy methods you can do at home and at any time, such as physical exercise, meditation, mindless reading and TV viewing, and short naps. For less convenient but more focused stress reduction, try massage therapy, yoga, or acupuncture:

- Massage therapy should significantly reduce your anxiety level. Published research shows measurable reduction in heart rates and brainwaves after just ten minutes of massage, especially sessions using moderate massage rather than deep kneading or light touching.

- Acupuncture specialists use ultra-thin needles in the skin to stimulate energy points that affect your spiritual, emotional, and mental well being. They also claim using acupuncture for infertility can stimulate reproductive organs to improve energy flow to those areas.

- Yoga should promote whole body relaxation and refresh your mind and spirit. Your body’s internal reproducive organs are targeted for relaxation and stimulation by certain yoga poses.

Be sure to schedule your sessions on a regulat periodic basis to ensure minimal stress during your days of fertility. You should experience a physical and emotional release from the tyranny of anxiety during a most joyous time in your life.

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